Sunday, May 26, 2013
Pondering if what I spoke was actually what I meant... Have the words my mouth let out caused anxiety and insecurity to my loved one? Thinking about what I have planned for our future... I suddenly feel that sometimes when we plan it too frigidly, it will cause stressed to both parties. Why not just let everything flow through without boundaries? Just like a water flowing out from a river mouth... That would be more exciting and relaxing. Allow the water to go in whichever possible directions. This may induce more creativity and we will be able to dream wilder and further. Dream of the impossible. Have dreams that make us stronger, give us a sense of direction and possibilities. YES. This is more like what I wanted to deliver! Plans aside. Lets talk sense. Ask yourself this important question: What do I want to achieve in my life? or How I want my life to live like?
The answers to the question may give you clues on how you can achieve them...
My answers?? I want a beautiful house to live in with my adorable husband and children. I want to work happily without too much stress over money. I want a slow-paced life. Most importantly, I want to enjoy every moment I spent with my loved ones and best friends.
How do I move on from here?
- Watch my attitude towards loved ones.
- Plan slightly for my future, etc.
Work should never be the centre of our universe. Just like when I get married and have children... I don't want children to be the centre of my universe. We should always balance a few things at one time. Parents, siblings, bf/hushand, children, career, best friends and yourself! Of course they couldn't be evenly distributed. But, none of it should occupy a significantly big portion of your universe. It's unhealthy in a way. Focusing too much on yourself is selfish. Focusing too much on your child is selfish too! Selfish to yourself and your other loved ones. So BALANCE is important!
What if you are facing financial stress? You feel you are short of money to dream. Short of money to progress. Don't be stupid. If money hasn't been an issue before you graduated. So why is it an issue now?? After graduation, we got a job and rightfully speaking we should be having more money now. So what's the problem? The problem is... We are worrying unnecessarily. Some may say after graduation they have a loan to pay back. But actually the loan started since we borrowed from the bank on day 1 of university. The fact that we may feel more stressed after graduation is because the interest started and the bank letter stressed us... Also, we no longer have excuses to ask our parents to pay for our loans and expenses. Think of it in another way. Believe in yourself that you will stay employed at least for 10 years. You are committed to use these 10 years to return your school loan (perhaps I was wrong to rush you in repaying all the loan). If you slow all this down, you will realise you have enough money to dream and do other things. Do the things that you wanted. It may be to travel, buy nice clothes, buy nice house, etc. Remember, Don't end your life with your work. Work is just a mean of learning more, and earning money. That's all. Start thinking how you want to live your life.
Jia you to all!!!
8:32 AM
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