Friday, April 20, 2012
Am I in the mid 20s crisis? I thought that would only happen to adults who are 30s? Anyway, I seem to be excited and at the same time frightened about what's to come in the future. Standing at the age of 23, I will soon enter the workforce, very soon... (in about 2 months time?) I am not really worried about not being able to get a job, or worried about getting a job late. But, I am more worried about coping with the working life. I have seen many friends and family who struggled to maintain a healthy work-life balance. I guess if you are enjoying what you are doing at work... you are also creating life in it. That's also a kind of work-life balance right? What I meant was... the cause of unhealthy work-life is simply due to you being unhappy at work. Maybe when I really in the workforce, this opinion will change. haha! Alright, my mid 20s crisis does not only comprises problems of future career, but also future relationships and friendship. Will I still stay in contact with my school friends? Yesterday, I asked weyrun this question: "do you think we hall friends will still be in contact after graduation?" He said " Maybe less often, but of cos we will be in contact."A friendship, similar to a couple relationship, it takes effort to stay strong. Not to mention my primary school friends (b'cos it was too long ago!), just take my secondary school friends as example, we stayed in contact after we left secondary school (though less often) until about 2 years ago. When I came back from HK, i realised that my secondary school click did not make the initiative to contact me. Huijun and I realised this. We noted that we were always the ones who initiated the outings, etc. Sometimes we felt really tired to be always the organiser. In fact, it has been almost 1 year since I last met them. It is a disappointment! Luckily, huijun and I are still in contact. hehehe... On the contrary, sometimes you don't really need a lot of effort to keep friendship going. Two strong-standing clicks of mine- WHY & MAY are the best examples for the latter. Though we seldom meet, when we really meet, there are many things to talk about! That's the difference. We don't need much effort to have fun, enjoy ourselves and stay happy together. I hope that this will be the same for my hall friends. But I really doubt so... haha... It's alright! Quality friends are more important. Another issue will be relationship with my dear. Not that we are having problems in our relationship, in fact our relationship has improved tremendously over a year. I am just thinking into our future... the possible kip-cups that we might be facing such as living location, less time spent together, etc. after we graduated. And I think the most troubling issue is our marriage. That surely will not take place so soon. Not until we are both financially stable and really understand each other inside-out. Perhaps at least another 3 years? (though my ideal age to marry is 25) While watching the 9pm show, I always try to relate it to my own personal experience. I will try to put myself in their shoes and ponder. Then I came to realise that understanding, trust, honesty and accommodation are very important factors in a relationship. Easy to list them out but hard to adhere to these points! I will! And probably ask my dear to stick to them too. HAHAhaha... My dear has 2/4 of them lah... just need more of accommodation and trust... Less of "da nan ren" can already. haha!!! For myself, I think I need to work harder on all of them. :( more to go!
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